Sexual AssaultWhat Is Sexual Assault?
- Sexual Contact: Any unwanted touching to the intimate parts underneath the clothes of someone who is eighteen years of age (if under the age of eighteen, click here), or intentionally causing this person to touch one's intimate parts.
- Sexual Coercion: Forcing someone to engage in something they don't want to do by feeding them alcohol, persistently asking or saying "if you love me you will".
- Attempted Rape: Almost penetrating the victim but no penetration happened.
- Rape or Criminal Sexual Penetration: "The unlawful and intentional causing of a person to engage in sexual intercourse, cunnilingus, fellatio, or anal intercourse, or the causing of penetration to any extent and with any object, of the genital or anal openings of another, whether or not there is any emission. (NM Statute 20-9-11)
Who Are Perpetrators?
- The average age of a rapist is 31 years old.
- 52% are white.
- 22% of imprisoned rapists report that they are married.
- Juveniles accounted for 16% of forcible rape arrestees in 1995 and 17% of those arrested for other sex offenses.
- In 1 in 3 sexual assaults, the perpetrator was intoxicated — 30% with alcohol, 4% with drugs.
- In 2001, 11% of rapes involved the use of a weapon — 3% used a gun, 6% used a knife, and 2 % used another form of weapon.
- 84% of victims reported the use of physical force only.
Who are the Victims?
- 1 out of every 6 American women has been the victim of an attempted or completed rape in her lifetime (14.8% completed rape; 2.8% attempted rape).
- 17.7 million American women have been victims of attempted or completed rape.
- 9 of every 10 rape victims were female in 2003.
- While about 80% of all victims are white, minorities are somewhat more likely to be attacked.
- About 3% of American men — or 1 in 33 — have experienced an attempted or completed rape in their lifetime.
- In 2003, 1 in every ten rape victims was male.
- 2.78 million men in the U.S. have been victims of sexual assault or rape.
- Most victims are assaulted in their homes, a friend's home or the offender's home.
- Drinking is involved in most cases.
Stop Acquaintance Rape
Acquaintance rape is rarely reported to police. Less than 2% of acquaintance rape victims reported the assault whereas 21% of women raped by strangers reported the crime to police (Illinois Coalition Against Sexual Assault, 2002). Every year, an estimated one woman in eight in college is raped and in 85% of those assaults the women knew their attacker (Texas Woman's University, 2007. (Source: National Center for Victims of Crime)
- Let your limits be known. If you aren't ready for sex, say something.
- Ask questions. If you aren't sure what the other person wants, ask!
- Have Sober Sex. Not only is sober sex better, a person can not give legal consent to have sex if they have a BAC level of 0.08.
- If the other person changes their mind, you should respect their decision.
- Remember, ask for consent.
Date Rape Drugs
- Alcohol is the # 1 date rape drug
- Roofies are legal in Mexico
- Ketamine horse tranquilizer; causes aggressive behavior
- GHB recipe easily accessible; can cause coma or death
Warning Signs - If a situation doesn't feel right, it probably isn't!
The 5 I's
- Invasion: Perpetrators often invade personal space visually, verbally and physically.
- Ignoring: Perpetrators of sexual assault often ignore verbal and non-verbal communication.
- Isolation: Perpetrators are often creative and subtle in their attempts to get someone alone.
- Intoxication: Perpetrators often use alcohol or drugs to make someone vulnerable or as an excuse for their own behavior.
- Instincts: It is not uncommon for people to dismiss or forget about listening to their instincts when they know or trust the person they are with.
Respect is Sexy
- Remember, get consent. If you experience mixed signals, do not read this as a "yes".
- Always interrupt anyone who you see verbally or physically violating another's space.
- Don't join in if friends encourage you in paying unwanted sexual attention to another person-man or woman.
- Don't stare at, whistle at, talk to, or look over a person in a way that makes them feel uncomfortable.
- Women have the right to change and set limits on sexual behavior just as men do.
- Never think you owe someone sex under any circumstances; sexual intercourse is not a payback for anything!
- Be aware of how you or your friends treat others.
- Never voice, believe or support the idea that the other person "wanted" or "asked for it".
If you are assaulted, remember, it is NOT your Fault!
For more information contact:
Click here for a list of registered sex offenders in the state of New Mexico.
Check with the Counseling Center at 646-2731 for Rape/Incest survivor group meeting times.