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Stalking What is Stalking?

Stalking is about obsession. It may be motivated by an intense affection or an extreme dislike

 

About 1 in 12 women and 1 in 45 men are stalked in their lifetime.

Stalking is a Crime

According to New Mexico law (NMSA 30-3A-3), "Stalking consists of a person knowingly pursuing a pattern of conduct that would cause a reasonable person to feel frightened, intimidated or threatened. The alleged stalker must intend to place another person in reasonable apprehension of death, bodily harm, sexual assault, confinement or restraint or the alleged stalker must intend to cause a reasonable person to fear for his safety or the safety of a household member."

To view the complete New Mexico State Laws on stalking, click here.

 

Are You Being Stalked?

Stalking may occur before, during and after a relationship- or in spite of one. For some the stalking begins when trying to leave a bad relationship.

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A stalker can be someone you know well or not at all. Most have dated or been involved with the people they stalk. Stalking is a gender-neutral crime, with both male and female perpetrators and victims. About 75 percent of stalking cases are men stalking women, but men do stalk men (sometimes the current boyfriend of their ex-girlfriends). In some cases, women can also be perpetrators against other women or against men.

 

Some Things Stalkers Do

  • Follow you and show up wherever you are
  • Repeatedly call you, including hang-ups.
  • Damage your home, car, or other property.
  • Send unwanted gifts, letters, cards, or emails.
  • Monitor your phone calls or computer use.
  • Use technology, like hidden cameras or global positioning systemsz, to track where you go.
  • Drive by or hang out at your home, school, or work.
  • Threaten to hurt you, your family, friends, or pets.
  • Find out about you by using public records or on-line search services, hiring investigators, going through your garbage, or contacting friends, family, neighbors, or co-workers.
  • Other actions that control, track, or frighten you.

 

Remember that a threat DOES NOT require words

Stalking and Technology

Technology is advancing at a rapid pace and unfortunately, the things that are making our daily lives easier are also making it easier for stalkers to exploit their victims.

Internet

  • Myspace, Facebook , and other online social networks make it easy for stalkers to find out personal information about you. Be careful how much information you post on the web; remember, cyberspace is public.  
    • Don't post your phone number, address, or a list of your classes.
    • Limit who can view your profile online.
  • Search Engines can turn up all kinds of information about people. Be careful which web sites you choose to list your personal information on, including SS#, credit card number, and /or address.
  • Email and Chat can be a great way to connect with friends, but it can also be a way for stalkers to invade your privacy.
    • Don't open mail from people you don't know
    • Change your passwords regularly
    • Be careful about what personal details you share in a chat room.

For more information on cyberstalking, click here

 

Things You Can Do

Stalking is unpredictable and dangerous. No two stalking situations are alike. There are no guarantees that what works for one person will work for another, and taking precautions does not mean it will not happen to you. Yet there are steps to increase your safety.

•  If you are in immediate danger, call 911.

•  Trust your instincts . Don't downplay danger. If you feel you are unsafe, you probably are.

•  Take threats seriously. Danger generally is higher when the stalker talks about suicide or murder, or when a victim tries to leave or end the relationship.

•  Contact a crisis hotline, victim services agency, or domestic violence program like La Casa, INC . They can help you devise a safety plan, give you information about local laws, refer you to other services, and weigh options such as seeking a protective order.

•  Develop a safety plan, including things like changing your routine, arranging a place to stay and taking advantage or services like Aggie Safe Walk.

•  Keep records of all stalking/harassing behavior . Keep accurate dates, times, and locations of where events took place. Make sure you get the names and phone numbers of witnesses. Keep all copies of letters, envelopes, and all packing materials.

•  Consider getting a restraining order that prohibits the stalker to stay away from you, your work and/or school.

•  Tell family, friends, roommates and co-workers about the stalking and seek their support. Tell security staff at your job or school. Ask them not to release your personal information to others.

 

For More Information on Stalking, Contact:

WAVE Program

575-646-2813

La Casa

24-hour Crisis line (575) 526-9513 or 1-800-376-2272

Email: lacasainc@yahoo.com

Las Cruces Police Department Victim Assistance Unit

(575) 528-4200

The National Center for Victims of Crime 

1-800-FYI-CALL (24-hour hotline)